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[FO] What's also really making everything worse...

... is not only not being able to feed and clothe myself, but my father who our relationship can only be described as estranged basically went through some bad times and has been in contact.

His brother who is probably about the same age as him died.  He got a call on his birthday that his brother was in hospital dying.  His brother (one of many) was also estranged from the entire family, drunk himself to death and has shook him and the family up.  Him and his wife (my father) are in a pretty shit financial position so they had to find the money out of nowhere, book a very last minute flight (basically they drove to the airport) and all he had on him was his passport, what he was wearing and had $5 cash.

So his wife and him have contacted me after all this time, initially seeing if I would be able to make it down there (the hospital/London) which I couldn't since I literally have 33p to my name.

I've now got a BBIM/Email from my father letting me know when the funeral is and that the family (he comes from 10 brothers and sisters) want to meet me along with him keeping in contact more.

The funeral is on the 17th, which I can't go to because I haven't two pennies to rub together to get there, I haven't even a suit to wear even if I could and on top of that I look like a bloody scruff as I haven't had a haircut since November.

I actually don't know what I'm going to do, if I don't show up it's basically seem that I'm just being an ultimate cunt chops and I will probably never meet the lot of them (they live in Ireland, Spain, Canada, The USA, everywhere which they are all making it in - and I can't even get in from BRISTOL).  I can't borrow the money to go there, I haven't a credit card, my credit rating is so low that even Pay Day lenders won't touch me any more, even if I could get a pay out from one of them I haven't the means to pay them back, so I'd be committing a criminal act.  I've also borrowed from friends and family to make it through January so I can't go down that road again.

It's so FRUSTRATING considering what's gone down for him to speak to me again (there is a long unhappy story why we didn't really talk up until this point).

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Sorry to hear about your family bereavement.

Firstly have you considered explaining your financial situation to your father? Secondly how much would you need to be able to attend?

I've not really had the opportunity to speak with him personally while he's been over here, I've mainly been in communication with his wife in Canada by email and I did explain my position is pretty grim. But I'm going to try and get a hold of him over the next couple days (he's at heathrow on his Canadian mobile so I can't really call him before he lands back in North America).

To realistically attend, it's hard to say without knowing where it is and if there is anybody I can stay with, but his sister is out in Redhill , so I've done a quick search to there as I can only assume it's being held around that area, off-peak fares are between somewhere between £9-£25 outward and £14-£25 inward and an off-peak return is £50 from Temple Meads or about the same if I do it from Pewsey (which is as far as my season ticket can take me [via Westbury].

To sort out what resembles a suit I would expect I could hit up ASDA for a solution and have a dig to see what I have here, I might even have a set of work trousers somewhere (so £20/£30 max), haircut £9-11 and probably a couple quid for a "thanks for letting me crash" drink or whatever might crop up.

So it's not a huge but it's still over 300 times more than amount which is sat in my bank account.

I can provide the train ticket if that's of any use?

Wow. That would be absolutely amazing. Thank you!

No problem. Just let me know when and how to transfer it to you.

If you need £50 for a couple of months then give me a shout and I'll xfer it over.

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