Gah. I had to speak to some woman in Americastan who said they'd get back to me (like in 150 years or so [give or take a few millenia]). I gave them the MSOL email address, but I just realised that's no good because their postmaster address also blocks mail from blacklisted domains (most naughty!). I also gave them my home phone number with the answrphone message I am most famous for "yes, yes you must give us all a good spanking!".
The only way I can see Grimnir getting the block is if somebody was in constant chat with an AOL member and instead of that AOL member deleting email they pressed the "OMG SPAM" button (don't laugh, how do you think livejournal.com got blocked?) or alternatively, email forwarding was set on an account with a .com name then it would look like Grimnir was spam mad.
We shall see what they do and updates will be posted. Btw, Jonski if you know anybody on AOL SMASH THEIR HEADS IN as this is what I shall be suggesting to all those hosted on Grimnir.